There once was a girl who decided that she would spend a few of her vacation days at her parents’ house in New Jersey. During these few days, an old friend came to visit, and she spent the night in the house. They had not had an overnight guest for quite some time, and they all had a gay old good time. The guest left the next morning, leaving the girl in a peaceful sleep.
When the girl woke up, her mother asked her if she had seen a substantial amount of money that she had left above the microwave. The girl told her she hadn’t, and then went off to Shop Correct to buy herself butter of cookies. She found that purchase to be a complete mistake, but that’s another story.
Upon returning home, the girl found her mother on the phone, asking her husband if he had seen the money. Her husband explained to her that he had seen them that morning, but had not taken them.
Point is, the money was magically gone and our guest was the only one who had come in our house. Yes, our house. The sleeping girl was me. Anywho.
My mom called our guest and asked her to come over, and I hit the basement because I sincerely didn’t want to witness the throw down. Anyway, our guest denied taking it. My mom pressed, and she said no one more time, and then left in a huff.
Why am I telling this story?
I want to tell as many people as I can that it is extremely important to remember that, if evidence is circumstantial, labels and accusations are just not okay. If there are no witnesses or concrete proof that someone committed a crime, you do not have the right to play the blame game. Ask if they did it nicely. If the person says they didn’t do it, leave it.
Think about it this way. What if you were accused of doing something, even though there is no real proof that it was you, and it really wasn’t.
My parents live in a very safe suburban neighborhood. There hasn’t been crime here since we moved in when I was six, but they don’t exactly lock their doors all the time. There is always another possible explanation, always another possible underlying factor.
I have been falsely accused, before. There was evidence pointing to only me, but I really hadn’t done it, and it felt horrible.
You see, even when you are blamed for something and turn out to be innocent, the incident doesn’t disappear. If the same situation happens again, everyone will think back to the last time you were accused of this same thing and wonder if you really were indeed innocent before.
Moral of the story: just be careful what you say.
Words can hurt more than anything.
Oh, and obviously, stealing is bad, so don’t do it. Okay? Okay.